[2021 TIPS ] on How to Start a Conversation With a Girl Naturally

You

Try to talk about yourself as little as possible because most people do not want to speak about someone else.

Her

This is the best way to start a conversation with a girl since most ladies like to talk about themselves. 

The things around you and her

This is one of the safest topics to start a conversation with a girl. For instance, you might talk about the food, drinks, environment, location, weather, and so on. 

Methods to start a conversation 

Examples of how to do it practically

Utilize your senses. Consider the things you hear, feel, taste, touch if you are close to her to find a common language with her. 

• Do you like today’s weather?
• Isn’t the music at the club too loud?
• The food is a bit unsalted, do you agree?
• The movie is rather boring, isn’t it?

Consider something positive about your experience. It would be better to start a conversation with a girl saying something positive and personal to her. 

• Have you ever visited a restaurant that serves similar food?
• Do you like this movie too?
• Have you heard this band before?
• Do you like the thunderstorms like this one?
• How did you know the host of the party?

Formulate a question. However, you would better start a conversation with an opening line, and follow it with a question for her to answer. 

• I like this California roll very much! What is the best place for sushi in this town?
• Emma’s place is great. How did you get to know her?
• Do you really like the movie? Why? 

Prepare more questions. Listen to her and ask more questions to follow her up and show that you are interested in her answers. 

• Do you really think so?
• Why do you believe in that?
• How can it be?

Ways to start a conversation:

Examples of how to practically do it:

Notice the things she has shared with you. Look at the things she posted online. Talk about the things that are specific for both of you and you want to have a conversation about them. 

• What is your cat’s name? 
• Do you like the movie you have seen?
• This mem is very cute. Do you really think this way about it?
• Do you like to volunteer?

Create the connection by asking the proper question. Do not just ask “Yes” or “No” questions, but try to ask questions that are not easy to answer.  

• I saw that you volunteered in the charity program for the poor? What are other projects that you participated in?
• Have you seen the Soul cartoon? I saw it too. Why is it better than other cartoons about the sense of life?
• I like your handmade pen? What is it made of? 

Make sure the conversation is going smoothly. You might pay compliments to her. However, keep in mind that you would better highlight other, not just appearance-connected things. For example, you might notice some of her traits of character. 

• You are very kind. I saw you participated in a project for the needy.
• You are so smart! I like the way you elaborate your ideas online. 

Ways to start a conversation with a girl:

Examples of how to do it right:

Get her phone number. It would be better to ask her to give you her phone number because it might be suspicious to communicate with someone whom you do not know. However, respect her boundaries if she refuses to give you her phone number, and do not try to get it from someone else. 

• I will message you the photo or the link. But wait, I still do not have your phone number. Will you give it to me?

Say “Hi” plus some questions because just saying “Hi” is not enough. You need to ask her some questions also. Ask clarifying questions to keep the conversation going. 

• Hi! How you are doing?
• Hi! Are you okay?
• Hi! Do you like to study? What is your favorite subject?

Say something relevant and timely. Make her understand your motivation behind your interest. For instance, you might talk about things that affect you both or you are both interested in. 

• Are you going to a dance tonight? Would you like to come there with me?
• Can you believe Mrs. Jones screamed at a student at the English class today?

Speak about her interests. Ask her about her favorite band, movie, or TV show if you know she likes it. 

• What songs by Billie Eilish will you recommend me to listen to?
• What is the best episode of “Friends”? Will you tell me?

Utilize smiley faces and emojis. Using smiley faces might be flirty and fun. Send her a smiley face for her to notice. 

• Have you seen the latest version of Wonder Woman? I think it is great:)
• You looked just awesome in that dress;)

Keep the conversation going! 

• Please tell me more about this actor.
• Will you share with me the details of why you like this movie so much?

1

If she is not interested, you would better avoid texting her. You are wasting your time if she does not want to talk to you. You would better stop texting her if she directly says “stop it” to you. 

2

Do not text her if you have something necessary to say. For instance, you should never break up with her, ask her out, offer advice on some problem, or doubt about something. It would be always to talk about it in reality but not in the text form.

3

Be savvy about the things you text. As long as the messages might be screenshot, you would better avoid texting her too intimate things in case her telephone would be in bad hands. For instance, you should never send her nude images of you or her. Do not send her discussions of illegal activities or requests because they might be considered to be admissible in court. Avoid texting the way you feel about your boss, teacher, or mother if it is a negative one.